Mentorship success depends on you! Published March 11, 2009 By Senior Master Sgt. Idalia Peele 721st Communications Squadron PETERSON AIR FORCE BASE, Colo. -- Our success as Air Force mentors depends on a variety of aspects. In fact, I've personally found success or failure most often depends upon the skills of the mentor. Consider the following simple rules to better prepare us to for this important role. · It's Not About You! The primary focus of mentoring is on the individual being mentored; you should be humble while mentoring and check your ego at the door. · Always Maintain Confidences: Trust is critical; matters discussed between a mentor and protégé must remain confidential. Always remember, trust takes a long time to become fully established, yet it can be destroyed in a matter of moments. · Set and Enforce Boundaries: This will ensure a professional relationship is maintained at all times. · Know Your Limitations: You don't have to know everything, but you can share your experiences and when necessary point the protégé in the right direction. · Keep Your Promises: Once you've made a mentoring commitment, you must follow through with your promises - do what you say you are going to do, when you say you are going to do it. · Listen and Ask Questions: You must use effective listening and should refrain from simply telling the protégé what to do in order to develop problem-solving skills in the protégé. · Be Approachable: You must break the ice; initiate conversations and get to know those you don't know. It will make the protégé feel comfortable in seeking you out as a mentor. · Don't Sugarcoat Feedback: Feedback needs to be specific and, when necessary, include constructive criticism. · Be Yourself: Understand yourself and develop a mentoring style that is authentic and consistent with whom you really are. · Commit to Continuous Learning: Dedicate yourself to continuous learning - technically, tactically, and as a mentor. Read professional journals referencing technical discipline in your field as well as leadership development. Remember: Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care!